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Yes I love Freelancer - amazing how such an old game that is so enjoyable. We play using the 'Discovery' mod - which has a ton of new stuff that it adds to the game.
No, never tried EV Nova, never even heard of it but if it is anything like Freelancer then I would probably like it. 'X' I found to have an extremely steep learning curve and the game begins being very difficult too, so I gave up on it in the end (plus no multiplayer).
And Elite - well, the name says it all

- as you say, nothing has quite come close to capturing it yet. Freelancer I enjoy because it is a lot more layed back than games like say, Eve Online.